I DIDN’T GET MY LICENSE UNTIL I WAS 24
Yes, you read that right. Can you believe it?
Not being “legal” to drive until you are in your mid-20s?
Pretty crazy isn’t it? Yet it’s so true.
So, what took me so long? It really boils down to one word: FEAR. Fear held me back and absolutely paralyzed me to actually get myself on the road and in the DMV to take the freaking test. Want to know what it feels like to have gotten 5 temporary permit licenses, yet not the real deal? Well Gorgeous, it absolutely sucks!
It sucks mainly because I was the only one getting in my own way, holding myself back with repetitive, negative self-talk.
…“You can’t get it, are you kidding?.”
…”You’ll never have your license.”
…”You’re doomed to have a supervised permit all of your life”
…“You can’t be trusted behind the wheel.”
…“You just aren’t safe to be in the car with anyways – why even try.”
…“They’re judging you.”
…“You’ll be the one giving people road-rage”
…“You won’t meet their expectations.”
…“It’s too scary.”
…“You’ll have another panic attack.”
It was a spiral of negativity… a pool of pessimism, and I was soaking in it.
At the time, I couldn’t see myself ever actually having my license and being able to drive by myself in my own car. It seemed out of reach… unachieveable.
BUT WHY???? Because it hadn’t happened yet, and when I began telling myself it never would, there’s no reason why it should.
Fast forward to now, I have so much fun driving down the highway and around town in my Honda CRV, going to networking events, taking my younger brothers places, visiting friends and working at coffee shops.
So when was the shift?
It happened the moment my father passed away. The moment he slipped away, was the moment my eyes were opened to just how incredibly precious this life is and then I realized that I was WASTING IT WITH FEAR and because of this, I wasn’t living at my highest potential and right then, I vowed to stop getting in my own way, to stop playing it small, and GET OUT THERE and GET IN THE GAME. It was then when I realized that I was the only one holding myself back and it was time to be able to look at myself in the mirror with happiness, love, and joy instead of what had come to be utter disgust and disappointment.
Through the most challenging time of my life as I was facing the reality of losing my father (who I was so close to) it was then my life began to change, and I began doing the things I always wanted to do, yet was afraid (more like PETRIFIED) of doing. It started with driving. After 8 years of putting it off, just two months after setting the intention and visualizing that it was actually going to happen, I had my license and then a car of my own and I was ecstatic. I fought through the self-doubt, felt the fear, yet did what I needed to do anyway because I knew it was something that I wanted to manifest into my life in order to take me where I wanted to go.
Next was public speaking, completely destroying the low-income mindset, traveling to new cities, and connecting with new people. I have successfully done all of these and am working more and more on setting and reaching the “next level” for each.
Shifting my mindset, stepping out of my own way (not letting fear rule my decisions), and realizing that this life is incredibly precious and is meant to be lived boldly as the truest, most confident version of myself has made all of the difference in the world for me, and my drive to make things happen is incredible compared to where I once was. I feel so much better because now I know that once you set the intention, and not let anything that happens to creep up stop you from reaching that goal, then you WILL MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Driving, Public Speaking, Travel, Financial Abundance, Love, Business Success, Specific Dreams, etc. Whatever it is that you want, you will make happen if you believe that it will and keep taking action until it does.
So that’s my story. What’s yours?
Was there a time in your life where you let FEAR to rule your decisions and hold you back from living the life you were meant to live?
If so, what was your demarcation line where you said “NO MORE!”? I’d love, love, love to hear it!